Emma let me do today’s blog. She’s a bit busy and is currently spending a lot of time making financial spreadsheets. She didn’t even have time to edit this before I posted it! So I thought this was a good opportunity to discuss a topic that most of my friends have had to deal with when it comes to relationships.
People seem to spend a lot of time wondering what kind of person they should be with. Sometimes you think you know, but then a friend points out something you’ve been missing in the relationship, or hadn’t thought you might want. Or your friends aren’t as supportive as you expected but you know in your heart that the person you like is worthy of your feelings. At least you think you know. It can get very confusing when your own heart and those you trust and rely on are telling you different things.
So I was wondering what exactly we all should be looking for in a relationship. Is it different for everybody or is there some kind of guideline? Specifically I was wondering how another person should make you feel. If they appreciate you and give you support and confidence, does anything else matter? Or is it all about how you feel when you think of them? Do you want to be with someone who makes you feel comfortable, or someone who makes you get butterflies in your stomach? What’s the difference between friendship and romance? What’s the difference between liking someone and a crush? So I thought I would look at it from both sides, do some research, and then you guys could tell me what you think.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about couplehood. Usually before you enter a committed, monogamous love match you have a pretty good sense of who you are. Your thoughts, opinions, likes and dislikes. And when you start dating someone regularly it’s a great opportunity to discover new things, or see things through their eyes, as well as sharing your favorite pastimes in the hopes that they will appreciate them as much as you do. Like any relationship, it’s a chance to learn and grow.
But unlike friendships, couplehood carries a much greater chance of “I” becoming “We.” Seeing each other daily, living together and marriage turn you into a unit. Compromise ensues, and sooner or later you realize that you now never make a decision without taking the other person into account. While a certain amount of this is very healthy for your partnership, it can also be scary because it can make you feel like you have lost your sense of self.
Compounding that sense of loss can be the way the two of you are now automatically associated together in social or business circles. Suddenly it can feel like any statement made or opinion expressed by your partner is connected to you…even if you disagree with it! As a single, independent woman, I’ve put together a few tips on how to maintain your individuality while still growing together as a couple.
Or to be more specific running into someone you never wanted to see or hear from again. It could be facing the drama of an ex-boyfriend or an ex-best friend, the kind that ended in shouting and tears. Or the awkwardness of that person you dated three times and never called back. Perhaps a childhood friend you just let drift away or an old coworker whose Facebook friend request you ignored. In the end it’s all the same. You’re being forced to confront a person you used to share some sort of intimacy with and it’s difficult.
You have goals, ambitions, and dreams. That’s something that is definitely Emma Approved! But there is a difference between believing in a path and actually walking the path, and you’re never exactly the same person you used to be after the journey. Every experience changes you in the best way possible, making you a wiser, more layered, stronger individual. And just like that dress you used to love in high school that you would never wear now, your old plans may no longer fit you. You’re just hanging on because you see yourself a certain way and have a hard time letting go. So here are a few tips on how to put the past behind you and leave yourself open to all the possibilities of the future.
Here at the Highbury Partners Lifestyle Group, we believe that everyone’s input is important. A good idea can come from anyone, regardless of title or experience. However, that doesn’t mean that we all always agree on how to get things done. Although Alex and I both have the best interests of the company at heart, we often disagree about the most effective route to success. Therefore, we thought we’d give you each of our perspectives on some of the career and life topics we often cover on our blog. We each came up with two questions, and you’ll find all four of our answers below. Enjoy!
A lot of you asked questions about relationships, which I suppose makes sense since it’s a large part of what Emma does. I can also see why it might be helpful to have a guy’s point of view once in a while. But please keep in mind that these opinions are just my own. I don’t represent all men everywhere or the Emma Approved mission statement. This is just one ordinary guy’s point of view. Here goes.
Sometimes no matter how confident you are, it’s still tough to tell when a guy is into you. While some men are comfortable coming right out and saying exactly how they feel, others express their interest in more subtle ways, especially when they are first getting to know you. Here are a few hints to clue you in to how he really feels about you. If a guy does just one of these things, it may not indicate interest, but if he does several of them, there’s a strong possibility that he’s intrigued by you.
When someone asks you out it’s always flattering, but that doesn’t mean you should feel obligated to say yes! And whether you were hoping for it, expecting it, or were completely surprised by it, you usually don’t have very much time to make a decision. Along with all the usual factors, another thing to consider is how he asked you. How a man chooses to ask you out says a lot about him and his feelings for you. Here are a few tips on interpreting his actions and what they might mean.
Love is a magical and powerful thing. It’s an amazing feeling. It makes us do things we don’t understand, things we can’t control. And like it or not, it often leads us in the wrong direction. Often, people settle for Mr./Ms. Good Enough. A relationship that’s nice enough, but will never reach it’s full potential – a dead end. If you know yourself well enough to know you want someone you can commit to for a lifetime, then what you’re really looking for is a partnership. Two people who bring out the best in each other, who make the most out of life, together. So how do you know if it’s the real deal or just a simple crush? Ask yourself these five questions before leaping into love.
Do you ever get the feeling that life isn’t turning out the way it’s supposed to? Especially when it comes to romance. You go on dates or commit to a relationship, but it’s not how you imagined it. Don’t worry, it’s not your fault! It’s how we grew up. Fairy tales, romance novels, and romantic comedies have given us certain expectations of our love lives. They inspire us, guide us, and ultimately disappoint us because that’s not how things work in the real world. Most people would tell you to give up and accept reality. Not me! If you want your romantic life to change, it’s up to you to change it. So here are a few suggestions on how to add a little magic to your everyday. Inspired, of course, by the stories that inspire us all.