We’ve given a lot of advice here at Emma Approved about healthy relationships and the personal work that goes into building them. Questions to explore before leaping into love, how to add some magic to your romantic life, ways to create balance in your relationships, and tips on maintaining your own identity when you finally find the right partner, just to name a few. If you’re new to Emma Approved, search our archive – you’ll find a treasure trove of helpful posts about love and romance.
But in the end, no matter how he asks you out or what you have in common (or don’t), a lot of it just comes down to chemistry. That glorious feeling that occurs when the two of you are together. There’s a reason they call it fireworks!! And nothing does fireworks quite like the movies! In celebration of the wonder of true love, here are some of my favorite kissing scenes. Please feel free to add some of your favorites in the comments.
May all of you have kisses in your life that are passionate, romantic, adventurous and sweet!
Lately I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about relationships. Specifically, I’ve been trying to figure out how to have more balance in all my relationships. Because even when you think everything is fine, you may find out that people you care about or work with (or both) feel otherwise. You never know how your actions are being perceived. For example, you may think that you’re helping someone you care about by giving advice, but they may feel that you talk more than you listen. Or they may think that by trying to make decisions without discussing them first, you aren’t being considerate, when you assumed you were just saving them time and trouble.
Balance can be a tricky thing, and every relationship has a unique dynamic. Timing can also be a factor. Sometimes a relationship is temporarily unbalanced because there is a change: one person now makes more money, has less time, is going through a particularly difficult situation or is in a place of authority. During these times, you must adjust accordingly and make up for the imbalance in other ways or at a later date. But there are a few basic rules that apply to everyone at anytime whether it’s family, friends, romance or coworkers. Here are a few tips on achieving and maintaining a balanced relationship.
Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and this year I’ve been thinking a lot about how to make the loved one in your life feel truly special. It all comes down to listening.
Listening is the key to finding the right gift for someone and to figuring out the perfect way to celebrate together. People operate on different “relational currencies,” which are the ways we show we care about one another. Not everyone comes from the same background, and we’ve all grown up with different ideas about gift giving. Tapping into your partner’s specific wavelength is the secret weapon to Valentine’s Day success!
Some people are raised in families where the emphasis is on buying expensive gifts. Others place the focus on hand-crafted projects that are low in cost but require a heavy degree of planning. In some families, creating an experience is what is expected, while others have grown up with the idea that doing something for your loved one is the best way to show how much you care.
Trouble arises when relational currencies are not aligned. For example, your boyfriend thinks he’s giving you a fantastic gift when he buys you an expensive gold bracelet, but you think it’s impersonal and would have preferred a handwritten journal filled with memories of your dating history. Or you plan a fantastic night out on the town with your sweetheart, but he is disappointed because he would have preferred a gourmet, home-cooked meal paired with an intimate night in. Clearly, you’ve each tried to show the other how much you care. But in this case, that’s not enough.
How can you get on the same wavelength? Listen. Reflect back on stories your partner has told you about his or her family’s traditions. Think about how you’ve spent previous holidays together and the types of gifts you’ve received from your partner on other occasions. And then get creative about tailoring a gift to your loved one’s liking, rather than getting him or her something you’d like to receive. Thinking about things this way can take some practice – you may not get it right the first time. But keep on trying, and you’re bound to find the perfect way to show someone you care!
Here are a few gift ideas matched to different relational currencies.
When someone asks you out it’s always flattering, but that doesn’t mean you should feel obligated to say yes! And whether you were hoping for it, expecting it, or were completely surprised by it, you usually don’t have very much time to make a decision. Along with all the usual factors, another thing to consider is how he asked you. How a man chooses to ask you out says a lot about him and his feelings for you. Here are a few tips on interpreting his actions and what they might mean.
No matter how good you think your life is, it can always be better. You can always have more, be more and do more. We constantly upgrade our televisions, phones and computers, but sometimes we forget to upgrade our lives. If you don’t take control and push yourself, things will stay exactly the same. It’s up to you to get your life moving and forward momentum is everything. Start now, live your life as the person you want to be, the best possible version of yourself. Live the life of your dreams.
Love is a magical and powerful thing. It’s an amazing feeling. It makes us do things we don’t understand, things we can’t control. And like it or not, it often leads us in the wrong direction. Often, people settle for Mr./Ms. Good Enough. A relationship that’s nice enough, but will never reach it’s full potential – a dead end. If you know yourself well enough to know you want someone you can commit to for a lifetime, then what you’re really looking for is a partnership. Two people who bring out the best in each other, who make the most out of life, together. So how do you know if it’s the real deal or just a simple crush? Ask yourself these five questions before leaping into love.
Do you ever get the feeling that life isn’t turning out the way it’s supposed to? Especially when it comes to romance. You go on dates or commit to a relationship, but it’s not how you imagined it. Don’t worry, it’s not your fault! It’s how we grew up. Fairy tales, romance novels, and romantic comedies have given us certain expectations of our love lives. They inspire us, guide us, and ultimately disappoint us because that’s not how things work in the real world. Most people would tell you to give up and accept reality. Not me! If you want your romantic life to change, it’s up to you to change it. So here are a few suggestions on how to add a little magic to your everyday. Inspired, of course, by the stories that inspire us all.
Most people I meet are all looking for the same thing, someone to love and a partner to share their lives with. Grow together and thrive together. But there are a million different ways to meet someone and only so many hours in a day. Choice is paralyzing and that is where someone like me comes in. So here’s a quick list to aid you in your quest for the right person.