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Career Advice: It’s Never Too Late To Start

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One of the most challenging things about embarking on the road to success can be the feeling that you’ve missed your chance. That you’re too late to the party. That you’re too old. But you are the only person who can permanently shut the window of opportunity. As long as you are willing to take a chance and put yourself out there, it’s never too late to pursue your dreams. Here are a few things to think about when setting out on the road to reinvention.

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Career advice: Know your own worth

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Achieving your dreams and working towards your goals is a lifelong pursuit.  It can be much harder than you assumed, and it’s natural to feel impatient or stuck at times.  But the worst thing you can do is give up or settle.  It may be about the journey, not the destination, but that doesn’t mean you should stop trying to get where you want to be.

Some of the most common reasons people settle for less than they deserve include a tendency to feel overly grateful for opportunities (especially since the recession), wanting to be appreciative of what they have instead of complaining about what they don’t, and judging themselves on their mistakes instead of their accomplishments.  All of these habits are part of trying to be a better person, but if taken too far, they turn into unhealthy behavior.  Unfortunately, women have been shown to be prone to succumbing to some of these habits.  Studies show women still make significantly less than men, and a huge reason behind this inequity is their avoidance of negotiating.  Of standing up and saying, “This is what I can do and you’re lucky to have me.”  They don’t know what they are worth and wait for someone to come along and tell them.

The most damaging thing you can do is doubt yourself.  To assume you haven’t gotten what you wanted because you are not worthy and never can or will be. You stop seeing yourself and your own value clearly. But success is based on many factors, including timing and luck. Here are a few tips on knowing your own worth in the workplace, and realizing how much you have to offer the world.

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How To Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want Help

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As you know, it is my mission to make people’s lives better! While this may sound altruistic, in truth, I get far more in return from helping people than they do from me. Some people are adrenaline junkies; I get a similar rush from seeing someone incorporate positive changes and start living up to their potential.

Sometimes helping people can be tricky, though. Someone may not realize they have a problem or that a behavior pattern is getting in the way of their success. Admitting that you have flaws (word change) can be very scary. And even if someone does realize that they need to make some changes, pride may keep them from reaching out to others for assistance. Here are a few tips on helping someone help him or herself.

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Career Advice: Getting Unstuck

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I’m a big believer in goals and plans. If you want to succeed, you need to identify where you want to be and then come up with a way to get there. But sometimes while you’re following that plan, things change and you must decide whether you’re going to stay the course or chart a new direction.

Often plans change because of external events that are beyond your control. As my business partner would say, life sometimes throws you a curveball. You lose your job. A family member passes away. Your closest friend moves to a new city. When things like this happen, how you react to the situation informs your next leg of the journey. You can let external forces defeat you, or after taking the time you need to emotionally deal with the situation, you can take a deep breath, tap into that deep well of inner strength, and figure out what’s next.

Sometimes the need for change is internally generated, when either you realize that you’ve strayed from the course you initially set for yourself or determine that you’re ready for something new.  I think this type of change is often more difficult to deal with. It’s not forced upon you, so you can just ignore it. The only problem is that shutting your eyes to your own unhappiness doesn’t make you happier. Continue reading

Ask Knightley: Passion in the Workplace

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Thanks to everyone who sent in questions. As always, these answers are just my opinion – they are not necessarily Emma Approved – but hopefully some of you will find an alternate point of view to be helpful. Several of you asked questions about reconciling your interests with your careers, so I thought I’d focus on that today.

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Life Advice: Healthy Ways to Recover When You’re Feeling Sad

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We all know the cliché.  A sad, depressed girl sits alone in her apartment in the dark, unshowered, wearing sweatpants, eating a carton of ice cream while watching cheesy movies and listening to sad music that speaks to her soul.  And let’s not forget the constant bouts of sobbing.

 The worst part of this picture is that the cliche is pulled straight from reality.  At one time or another, most girls (and even some guys) have indulged in just this way.  Often, when life hands you a major disappointment the instinct is to close ranks, wallow and stop functioning until the pain passes.  As a culture, as friends, we encourage it.

“Whatever makes you feel better.”
“Take a load off.”
“Do what you have to.”

But this is the WRONG approach.

All the things people usually do to comfort themselves when life gets hard are, in fact, the exact opposite of what would actually make them truly feel better. Take a day or two away from the rest of the world to lick your wounds, but the longer you shut down, the more likely you are to stay down.

I recently went through some major setbacks that touched on many aspects of my life, creating a domino effect and causing me to question my career, my purpose in life and my qualifications for being anyone’s friend.  I’m not alone in this – turns out this kind of experience happens to all of us at least once.  But I’ve been in the business of making people’s lives better long enough to know that I needed some additional support, especially given that the situation was so unfamiliar to me. I spent a lot of time researching how to get better as quickly as possible.  Here are a few great tips on how to cheer yourself up when life has you down.

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