I’ve been wrong, a lot. And that includes how I’ve been approaching this fashion blog. I’ve been using the theory that you should dress based on what you want to make happen. Which, if you have a big date or a job interview, still holds true. But trying to control everything doesn’t make allowances for being surprised or lucky. They say that you never know in advance when the big moments are going to happen, so I’m adding a new approach. Love what you wear every day, no matter how ordinary, as though it is going to be the biggest day of your life. Because it just might be. For example I had no particular plan in mind when I choose this sweet, pink halter dress with it’s romantically draping skirt. I just wanted to give myself a boost, and pink has always been my favorite color. I complemented it with these charming, designer, white satin heels with a floral T-strap design. Altogether a lovely, feminine look that instantly makes you feel special no matter how ordinary you day turns out to be. And if it’s not ordinary? You’ll be happy you made the effort.
Episode 70 with Alex Knightley.
See my looks from this video, here.
Emma let me do today’s blog. She’s a bit busy and is currently spending a lot of time making financial spreadsheets. She didn’t even have time to edit this before I posted it! So I thought this was a good opportunity to discuss a topic that most of my friends have had to deal with when it comes to relationships.
People seem to spend a lot of time wondering what kind of person they should be with. Sometimes you think you know, but then a friend points out something you’ve been missing in the relationship, or hadn’t thought you might want. Or your friends aren’t as supportive as you expected but you know in your heart that the person you like is worthy of your feelings. At least you think you know. It can get very confusing when your own heart and those you trust and rely on are telling you different things.
So I was wondering what exactly we all should be looking for in a relationship. Is it different for everybody or is there some kind of guideline? Specifically I was wondering how another person should make you feel. If they appreciate you and give you support and confidence, does anything else matter? Or is it all about how you feel when you think of them? Do you want to be with someone who makes you feel comfortable, or someone who makes you get butterflies in your stomach? What’s the difference between friendship and romance? What’s the difference between liking someone and a crush? So I thought I would look at it from both sides, do some research, and then you guys could tell me what you think.
Harriet’s lesson of the day is to work on nurturing her relationships. All of them. That includes co-workers, acquaintances, hope of future relationships, and old friendships that have been left behind. The thing about old friendships is that even when renewed, it’s never quite the same. That doesn’t mean different is bad, in fact, it might be better than before. That got me thinking about expectations and how there are a lot of things, including fashion, that are at their best when a little different from normal. Like Harriet’s outfit today. Blue and white stripes is a traditionally used pattern and a summer staple. First inspired by the navy, she chooses a fitted dress with a full skirt and sweetheart neckline. But instead of the traditional blue and white, this dress is an interesting combination of navy and beige. It gives the whole look a slightly more serious, somber tone and compliments her peaches and cream skin tone. Paired with woven wedge sandals with a zippered front and a matching dark blue handbag, Harriet’s outfit proves that different can be refreshing. And a color that might seem boring at first is ultimately flattering and complementary to you.
Today’s lesson, stop rehashing the past and move forward with your new perspective and improved set of rules. And my new code of conduct includes being open, straightforward, and taking things as they are. That put me in the mood for this elegant and uncomplicated ivory dress with a full, swinging skirt and a simple black and lavender pattern. If you take a step back the print looks blue, and reminds me of a traditional porcelain pattern that gives the overall look a sense of refinement and dignity. Basic accessories includes matching black pumps and a white purse because I tend to over think things and that’s just one more habit to be broken. Eventually.
We’ve talked a lot on this blog about how to deal with change. Change in the workplace, change in relationships, change with family and friends. But before you can create change in your own life, you have to decide to do so. For some, the “decision to make the decision” is the hardest part of the process. The endless deliberation, the pros-and-cons lists, the worrying about making the wrong choice. For others, the process is exactly the opposite – the insight that a situation needs to change hits you like a ton of bricks. It’s the proverbial light bulb going off above your head.
No matter how you come to a point of change, though, at some point you need to figure out how to make that change real for yourself – how to transition something from just a thought in your head to actual difference in your life. A few ways to do this include verbalizing the change, allocating resources (including money, time and effort), pursuing education and creating accountability. Here are just a few examples of how these strategies can manifest themselves in different ways. Continue reading
In honor of our Make Your Life Better contest I decided to give some personal style advice on the blog for the very first time! Not long ago we received an email from Caiti, a middle school teacher in her late twenties and an Emma Approved fashion blog fan, looking for advice on updating her wardrobe.
Her main concerns?
- Dressing maturely for work without falling into the boring teacher cliche.
- Celebrating her figure, and avoiding being frumpy, without being inappropriate at work
- Shopping on a teacher’s limited budget.
I completely understand your dilemma Caiti! Making good fashion choices is often all about finding a balance while still struggling to be an individual. You want your pieces to be affordable but well made, figure flattering but appropriate for work, fun and youthful but more mature as you enter your thirties. And though you asked for some summer staples, you want pieces that you can use year round, especially on a teaching budget. So I’ve come up with a few examples, currently available in your size, to help you on your way!
Harriet’s latest lesson, which she has struggled with in the past and finally conquered, is avoiding social comparisons. She has informed me that she finally realizes her own worth and no longer feels that she is unequal to anyone. That the only person who decides where she belongs is her. Which Harriet says she learned from me, and I can’t be anything but proud of that. On the heels of this declaration Harriet decided to dress more womanly, sophisticated, and confident than I’ve ever seen her dress before. A real showstopper in this fitted, stretch knit, coral dress with a notched, scooped neckline and cap sleeves. It makes a statement and says she now knows her own power and isn’t afraid of it. She really showcases it with her hair swept up in a bun and adds to it with black and white, checkered pumps that indicates a woman more complicated than she might otherwise appear. Last a structured, white handbag big enough to be a briefcase because this outfit is still for work after all.
It’s not enough to apology for your past mistakes, you must learn from them and prove to the people you’ve wronged that it will be different from now on. This requires you to handle delicate situations with care, balance, and courage. So with that in mind, I chose this artsy, sleeveless blouse with a gorgeous, multi-color abstract pattern somewhere between a stain glass window and calligraphy. It suggests care, precision, and high-minded ideals. Paired with a sophisticated and bold red-orange pencil skirt for bravery, and black and tan, peep toe platform pumps for simplicity so that there are no more misunderstandings. Finally, a pure white structured backpack to carry all your good intentions.