Lately I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about relationships. Specifically, I’ve been trying to figure out how to have more balance in all my relationships. Because even when you think everything is fine, you may find out that people you care about or work with (or both) feel otherwise. You never know how your actions are being perceived. For example, you may think that you’re helping someone you care about by giving advice, but they may feel that you talk more than you listen. Or they may think that by trying to make decisions without discussing them first, you aren’t being considerate, when you assumed you were just saving them time and trouble.
Balance can be a tricky thing, and every relationship has a unique dynamic. Timing can also be a factor. Sometimes a relationship is temporarily unbalanced because there is a change: one person now makes more money, has less time, is going through a particularly difficult situation or is in a place of authority. During these times, you must adjust accordingly and make up for the imbalance in other ways or at a later date. But there are a few basic rules that apply to everyone at anytime whether it’s family, friends, romance or coworkers. Here are a few tips on achieving and maintaining a balanced relationship.