We’ve given a lot of advice here at Emma Approved about healthy relationships and the personal work that goes into building them. Questions to explore before leaping into love, how to add some magic to your romantic life, ways to create balance in your relationships, and tips on maintaining your own identity when you finally find the right partner, just to name a few. If you’re new to Emma Approved, search our archive – you’ll find a treasure trove of helpful posts about love and romance.
But in the end, no matter how he asks you out or what you have in common (or don’t), a lot of it just comes down to chemistry. That glorious feeling that occurs when the two of you are together. There’s a reason they call it fireworks!! And nothing does fireworks quite like the movies! In celebration of the wonder of true love, here are some of my favorite kissing scenes. Please feel free to add some of your favorites in the comments.
May all of you have kisses in your life that are passionate, romantic, adventurous and sweet!
Emma let me do today’s blog. She’s a bit busy and is currently spending a lot of time making financial spreadsheets. She didn’t even have time to edit this before I posted it! So I thought this was a good opportunity to discuss a topic that most of my friends have had to deal with when it comes to relationships.
People seem to spend a lot of time wondering what kind of person they should be with. Sometimes you think you know, but then a friend points out something you’ve been missing in the relationship, or hadn’t thought you might want. Or your friends aren’t as supportive as you expected but you know in your heart that the person you like is worthy of your feelings. At least you think you know. It can get very confusing when your own heart and those you trust and rely on are telling you different things.
So I was wondering what exactly we all should be looking for in a relationship. Is it different for everybody or is there some kind of guideline? Specifically I was wondering how another person should make you feel. If they appreciate you and give you support and confidence, does anything else matter? Or is it all about how you feel when you think of them? Do you want to be with someone who makes you feel comfortable, or someone who makes you get butterflies in your stomach? What’s the difference between friendship and romance? What’s the difference between liking someone and a crush? So I thought I would look at it from both sides, do some research, and then you guys could tell me what you think.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about couplehood. Usually before you enter a committed, monogamous love match you have a pretty good sense of who you are. Your thoughts, opinions, likes and dislikes. And when you start dating someone regularly it’s a great opportunity to discover new things, or see things through their eyes, as well as sharing your favorite pastimes in the hopes that they will appreciate them as much as you do. Like any relationship, it’s a chance to learn and grow.
But unlike friendships, couplehood carries a much greater chance of “I” becoming “We.” Seeing each other daily, living together and marriage turn you into a unit. Compromise ensues, and sooner or later you realize that you now never make a decision without taking the other person into account. While a certain amount of this is very healthy for your partnership, it can also be scary because it can make you feel like you have lost your sense of self.
Compounding that sense of loss can be the way the two of you are now automatically associated together in social or business circles. Suddenly it can feel like any statement made or opinion expressed by your partner is connected to you…even if you disagree with it! As a single, independent woman, I’ve put together a few tips on how to maintain your individuality while still growing together as a couple.
My best friend Annie and I recently had an argument about which is better when it comes to relationships: being alike or being different. I think that being different can be exciting, offer surprises, and add new ways of thinking to the mix. Annie claims that common life goals and a similar perspective build a strong foundation for a lasting relationship. I believe that being with your doppleganger gets boring after awhile, whereas Annie believes that always disagreeing can get boring after a while.
We’ve been back and forth and have now decided to bring the conversation to you with a good old fashion debate! Or a slightly condensed version. I’ll make my case, Annie will offer her rebuttal, and then we’ll both conclude. Next: you decide who’s right.
I really loved debate in high school. Annie doesn’t stand a chance!
You have goals, ambitions, and dreams. That’s something that is definitely Emma Approved! But there is a difference between believing in a path and actually walking the path, and you’re never exactly the same person you used to be after the journey. Every experience changes you in the best way possible, making you a wiser, more layered, stronger individual. And just like that dress you used to love in high school that you would never wear now, your old plans may no longer fit you. You’re just hanging on because you see yourself a certain way and have a hard time letting go. So here are a few tips on how to put the past behind you and leave yourself open to all the possibilities of the future.
Here at the Highbury Partners Lifestyle Group, we believe that everyone’s input is important. A good idea can come from anyone, regardless of title or experience. However, that doesn’t mean that we all always agree on how to get things done. Although Alex and I both have the best interests of the company at heart, we often disagree about the most effective route to success. Therefore, we thought we’d give you each of our perspectives on some of the career and life topics we often cover on our blog. We each came up with two questions, and you’ll find all four of our answers below. Enjoy!
Lately I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about relationships. Specifically, I’ve been trying to figure out how to have more balance in all my relationships. Because even when you think everything is fine, you may find out that people you care about or work with (or both) feel otherwise. You never know how your actions are being perceived. For example, you may think that you’re helping someone you care about by giving advice, but they may feel that you talk more than you listen. Or they may think that by trying to make decisions without discussing them first, you aren’t being considerate, when you assumed you were just saving them time and trouble.
Balance can be a tricky thing, and every relationship has a unique dynamic. Timing can also be a factor. Sometimes a relationship is temporarily unbalanced because there is a change: one person now makes more money, has less time, is going through a particularly difficult situation or is in a place of authority. During these times, you must adjust accordingly and make up for the imbalance in other ways or at a later date. But there are a few basic rules that apply to everyone at anytime whether it’s family, friends, romance or coworkers. Here are a few tips on achieving and maintaining a balanced relationship.
Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and this year I’ve been thinking a lot about how to make the loved one in your life feel truly special. It all comes down to listening.
Listening is the key to finding the right gift for someone and to figuring out the perfect way to celebrate together. People operate on different “relational currencies,” which are the ways we show we care about one another. Not everyone comes from the same background, and we’ve all grown up with different ideas about gift giving. Tapping into your partner’s specific wavelength is the secret weapon to Valentine’s Day success!
Some people are raised in families where the emphasis is on buying expensive gifts. Others place the focus on hand-crafted projects that are low in cost but require a heavy degree of planning. In some families, creating an experience is what is expected, while others have grown up with the idea that doing something for your loved one is the best way to show how much you care.
Trouble arises when relational currencies are not aligned. For example, your boyfriend thinks he’s giving you a fantastic gift when he buys you an expensive gold bracelet, but you think it’s impersonal and would have preferred a handwritten journal filled with memories of your dating history. Or you plan a fantastic night out on the town with your sweetheart, but he is disappointed because he would have preferred a gourmet, home-cooked meal paired with an intimate night in. Clearly, you’ve each tried to show the other how much you care. But in this case, that’s not enough.
How can you get on the same wavelength? Listen. Reflect back on stories your partner has told you about his or her family’s traditions. Think about how you’ve spent previous holidays together and the types of gifts you’ve received from your partner on other occasions. And then get creative about tailoring a gift to your loved one’s liking, rather than getting him or her something you’d like to receive. Thinking about things this way can take some practice – you may not get it right the first time. But keep on trying, and you’re bound to find the perfect way to show someone you care!
Here are a few gift ideas matched to different relational currencies.
A lot of you asked questions about relationships, which I suppose makes sense since it’s a large part of what Emma does. I can also see why it might be helpful to have a guy’s point of view once in a while. But please keep in mind that these opinions are just my own. I don’t represent all men everywhere or the Emma Approved mission statement. This is just one ordinary guy’s point of view. Here goes.
Sometimes no matter how confident you are, it’s still tough to tell when a guy is into you. While some men are comfortable coming right out and saying exactly how they feel, others express their interest in more subtle ways, especially when they are first getting to know you. Here are a few hints to clue you in to how he really feels about you. If a guy does just one of these things, it may not indicate interest, but if he does several of them, there’s a strong possibility that he’s intrigued by you.